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Making sense of internal and external worlds is at the root of all the free-style activity

Nowadays, we are all obsessed with our children developing motor and cognitive abilities through play, but my pitch here is different. Children need to play to make sense of their internal and external worlds. For children, play is not just recreation or leisure, which implies that it is an indulgence, but important and serious work. It is pleasurable and engrossing precisely because it is emotional. Otherwise, it would merely be the handling of objects.

If you wish to understand your child you need to understand his/her play, because it is through play that children express themselves, conveying what they cannot express in words. What a child chooses to play at betrays ‘his inner processes, desires, problems and anxieties’.

It is how children make sense of difficult feelings — jealously, anger, guilt and hatred are enacted between dolls and monsters — which makes it easier to handle it in real relationships. In play, the little child can escape from the impact of a situation that is too painful for him to accept as it stands. He can escape for a little while by pretending that he is someone else.

In her real life, eight-year-old Tina was at the receiving end of many instructions from many teachers — for sport, music, art, theatre, schoolwork, dance — all of which she (at least partially) strongly resented. In her play with me, she made herself the teacher who gave the children endless instructions. She talked non-stop for 40 minutes, entirely disinterested in the other.

She would ask ‘Is that okay?’ of the children (i.e., me) but never wait for the response. It was just lip service to democracy or consensus. It was clear to both of us that this was a totalitarian regime with one person in charge. Keeping in mind that in our fantasy lives we tend to be excessive. I wondered whether she was communicating that she wanted to have her voice heard, to be negotiated with rather than be infantalised. She wanted to be taken seriously, not just indulged.

Left to themselves, children will play with anything: empty cardboard boxes become houses, curtains become tents, dolls and stuffed animals talk to each other; kitchen odds and ends become a drum-set or an imaginary playing house. It is not the objects, therefore, that are as important as the fantasies that accompany it. Children have ideas about what they are doing; a kind of storytelling, sometimes consciously expressed and easy to understand if we are paying attention, but also with unconscious undertones, less obvious to see.

Watch a young child playing (where they are free from instruction, anxiety or targets of outcome); for example, jumping off the sofa again and again: this is one kind of play — to achieve mastery over something, build skill and lose the fear of being hurt. Then there is acting out active destruction: building towers with blocks only to enjoy toppling them over, or displaying complex emotions in imaginary play — death and destruction, anger, loss, magical strength and resurrections as well as persecution, care and affection.

Every evening in the garden of her home, four-year-old Anya would play at being jailed by the evil policeman, dragged to the tree and tied up. What was being played out is difficult to know exactly, since no one really paid much attention, though her mother recalls that they were going through a difficult phase together, where Anya was frequently angry and defiant with her. Clearly something was going on for Anya that, according to her internal justice system, deserved punishment.

Eventually the theme ran out of steam. The same theme is repeated over and over with little variation (or children want to hear the same story day after day, in exactly the same way) because it means something to the child. Repetition does many things — it makes things feel bearable, less frightening, more consolidated. It is like leaving feelings to marinate so they truly sink in or pushing down on them so they sediment and become more substantial.

Games where there are emergencies, rescues, doctors, blood, thunderstorms, evil jailors, robbers or death are a child’s way of destroying and repairing relationships in fantasy. When a three-year-old pretends to be Chhota Bheem ,beating up Mangal Singh , who has captured his friend Raju, there is a lot going on beyond depicting what the child may have watched on television.

Power, anger and making things better are some of the processes at play here. Being small yet powerful, is an important part of why Chhota Bheem and his friends appeal to children.

Most parents/carers/child workers are aware of the importance of the make-believe world, because when invited to join in and play a role, many do so willingly. One can see parents pretending to hide from the rain, or be shot at by bullets and be grievously injured or fall dead, only to be magically revived by the doctor/child. By playing the role well, parents are doing something significant. They are making the experience emotionally real for the child and not ruining it by bringing in reality.

Something similar happens when a child is ‘helping’ in the kitchen or home.

Parents may know that the child’s presence actually creates more work for them, that it takes more effort and creativity to keep the child engaged in mixing the batter, more serenity in overlooking the mess they make by spilling water, yet they allow their child to feel that the cake would not have been so tasty had it not been for the raisins he put in or that his assistance in the garage was crucial to getting the car clean. After all, external facts are not the only truth.

Excerpted from Love and Rage: The Inner Worlds of Children by Nupur D Paiva, published by Yoda Press




 Cow is  an animal, but… a cow has many specialities that no other animal (not even human beings) has in this world. This is the reason that Hindus consider cow as ‘mother’ after their own mother, and pray to the cow with respect calling it “Go-Matha”.  These are some truths about go-matha.

· If a cow eats something poisonous by mistake, and we drink its milk, will we fall ill? To find out, one cow was regularly fed a particular quantity of a poison every day. After 24 hours, its blood, urine, dung and milk were tested in a lab to check where the poison could be found. In this way, the tests were done not for 1 or 2 days, but continuously for 90 days in All India Institute of Medical Sciences (AIIMS) New Delhi. The researcher did not find any trace of poison in milk, blood, urine or dung of that cow.
Then where did this poison fed for 90 days go? Just like Lord Shiva held poison in his throat, the go-matha hid the entire poison in her throat. This is a special quality that no other animal has.

· This is the only creature that inhales oxygen and also exhales oxygen.   · Cow milk has the quality of countering poison.  · There are diseases that medical science has not yet understood; urine of Go-matha has the power to cure them.   · If cow-ghee and rice are cooked together, two powerful gases called ethylene-oxide, propylene-oxide are released. Propylene-oxide is the best gas used for creating artificial rain.  ·  Cow-urine is the world’s best killer of microbes    · With medicines made using cow dung and cow urine, stomach-related ailments can be cured.  · We can save ourselves from radio-waves by plastering the home floors and area outside home with cow-dung.   · Cow-dung has the power to destroy the microbes causing cholera.   · If 10 grams of cow-ghee is put in fire (yagnya), 1 ton of oxygen is generated.

*What is Maturity of Mind ? *

  1. Correcting ourselves without trying to correct others.
  2. Accepting others with their short comings.
  3. Understanding the opinions of others from their perspectives.
  4. Learning to leave what are to be avoided.
  5. Leaving the expectations from others.
  6. Doing whatever we do with peace of mind.
  7. Avoiding to prove our intelligence on others.
  8. Avoiding the status that others should accept our actions.
  9. Avoiding the comparisons of ourselves with others.
  10. Trying to keep our peace in our mind 
          without worrying for anything.

    11. Understanding the difference between the basic needs and what we want.

  11. Reaching the status that happiness is not connected 
          with material things.

*Our life will be simple if only we practice 7 or 8 of the above 12*

Live your Life & Love your Life.



Advice to seniors.*

A study in United States shows over 51% of old people fall down from climbing stairs. Every year, many Americans are killed by climbing stairs.

*Experts Reminder:* 

After 65 years, these 10 actions should be avoided:

1, do not climb staircase. If must climb, hold on firmly to staircase railings.

2, do not rapidly twist your head. Warm up your whole body first.

3, do not bend your body to touch your toe. Warm up your whole body first.

4, do not stand to wear your pants. Wear your pants while sitting down.

5, do not sit up when lying face up. Sit up from one side (left hand side, or right hand side) of your body.

6, do not twist your body before exercise. Warm up whole first.

7, do not walk backwards. Falling backwards can result in serious injury.

8, do not bend waist to lift heavy weight. Bend your knees and lift up heavy object while half squatting.

9, do not get up fast from bed. Wait a few minutes before getting up from bed.

10, do not over force defecation. Let it come naturally. 

courtesy   Whatsapp

A mindful educationist

In an effort to bring about change in the society, a Begumpet sub-inspector, Madhu Uyala, has recently adopted a government school in his jurisdiction. Interestingly, before joining Hyderabad Police in 2013, Madhu was a teacher. “I used to coach students for IIT entrance exams for six years. I had to quit my job after I fell ill for a few months. Post which I joined the police department,” says Madhu.

However, a change in profession could not dampen his spirit to work in the education sector. “I met a few pass outs from the Zeera Government  Upper Primary School, Shamlal (Telugu medium). They were lamenting about the poor facilities and lack of basic infrastructure at their school. It was then that I decided to adopt the school and serve the students,” he says.

Talking about the contribution of his students’ and the locals in transforming the adopted school, Madhu says, “They contributed abacus tools, school bags, note books, stationery and even sports equipments like carom boards and volleyball kits. We have hired two non-teaching staff members to look after the sanitation. We have also renovated  the entire school, constructed compound walls.”

Apart from this, the school will soon form an Aspirants’ Hub — a two-room knowledge centre for competitive exam study. And now, Madhu’s wife, Archana, is joining the cause as well. “She is also a teacher and an expert in abacus. She recently delivered a baby boy, so after a couple of months, she will take up classes,” he mentions.

Madhu now wants to bring them on par with private schools. “Recently, we prepared a special time table, which included skill-oriented teaching aid among other things. With the school strength going up to 70, the DEO is now considering to convert it into an English-medium school from the next academic year,” he says.

Clearly, Madhu’s initiative is not just quenching his own passion for the sector, but also rousing a fire in many young minds.

courtesy    Deccan Chronicle


Expressive message


A university professor wrote an expressive message to his students at the doctorate  masters and bachelors levels in South Africa.  The message

Collapsing any nation does not require use of atomic bombs or the use of long range missiles. It only requires lowering the quality of education and allowing cheating in the examinations by the students.

The patient dies in the hands of such doctors.  And buildings collapse in the hands of such engineers. And money is lost in the hands of such accountants. And humanity dies in the hands of such religious scholars. And justice is lost in the hands of such judges.

The collapse of education is the collapse of the nation.


The freshly brewed aroma of a letter

In a bygone era young women would spray a little perfume on their letters to their beaus. Nowadays of course even getting a handwritten letter in the poet is a rarity.

But India Post is making it possible to send letters that carry the fragrance of something a large part of India loves deeply  on Sunday April 23 the Department of Posts will release a ‘ coffee stamp ‘ at the General Post Office Bengaluru.  The stamps have been printed at the India Security Press   Nashik.

It will last long

The technology involves spraying or embossing the stamps with fine coffee granules that will retain the aroma for a long time  said Charles Lobo,  Chief Post Master General Karnataka Circle.  “ Only on the day of the release will we know the colour  texture and design “

The stamp will be released by Minister of State for Communications Manoj Sinha and Union Minister for Commerce and Industry Nirmala Sitharaman with officials of the Postal Department and Coffee Board.  “ I ‘m very excited about the coffee stamp “ said Ms. Sitharaman.  “ It is not just about philatelic interest but also about the appreciation of coffee.  It’s a collector’s version priced at Rs  100.  Coffee deserves a premium price  we should not underprice it”.

One lakh stamps will be ready for sale to collectors.  The stamp first day cover miniature sheets and information brochures will be available at the Philately Bureau  Bangalore General Post Office and all other head post offices.

Bhutan first introduced the concept of aromatic stamps in 1973.  New Zealand  Thailand and Switzerland among others joined in later.  Brazil has issued coffee and burnt wood scented stamps and China has done fruits and sweet and sour pork.

India introduced its first aromatic stamp in 2006 with a Rs 15 sandlewood scented stamp.  Thirty lakh of these sold out within two weeks.  In 2007 there were rose scented  stamps  in four varieties of the flower Jawahar  Neelam  Delhi princess and Bhim  at Rs 5 each and a jasmine fragrance in 2008

Courtesy   The Hindu